Reveling In My Land Of Nod

Greetings and salutations from my own little Land of Nod. I arrived here on Jan. 4 and it’s the best place I’ve been in about five years. I believe you would refer to this dreamy locale as “maternity leave.”

Image by Erica Lynn Photography

I’m one of the lucky few Americans who has a job waiting for her after taking a maternity leave that’s longer than the 12 weeks granted under the Family Medical Leave Act. I recognize and am soaking up this blessing (and it’s so sad that my situation isn’t more common, but I digress…)

When Logan was born, I took off seven months and it was needed. He was colicky, I had breastfeeding woes the first three months and despite all of my reading to try to prepare myself, I felt completely inadequate and lost. In short, it was a mindfcuk.

This time, it’s been loads easier because Ethan is an easy-going kid and I’ve got second-time-around-mommy-know-how. Plus Logan is still going to daycare, so many days it’s just me and my smiley infant. And it’s perfect.

I spend my days chatting it up with the little guy (he’s a great listener,) lying on the floor watching him play and listening to him coo. When he first grabbed a toy, or rolled over or sat on the floor without tipping over, I whooped it up so much you would have thought Publisher’s Clearinghouse knocked on the door.

Where’s that ballsy journalist who sharpened her elbows tussling in the Chicago media scrums? Or the one who would push, push and push reporters to get the right context in a story? She’s still here, she’s just sleeping. I wake her up if something goes awry at my daycare or if a parent pisses me off, but for now, she’s sleeping.

And a more chill, happier me is in the driver’s seat. I’ve had time to catch up with my friends, toting my little guy to lunches, hanging out at friends’ homes or gabbing on the phone to my BFF every day. That hasn’t happened since college.

I have been hesitant to blog about how great it’s been, I mean, it seems like no one wants to hear about how happy people are… And aren’t working moms supposed to hate staying at home? You know, since poopy diapers aren’t as scintillating as Powerpoint.

My days aren’t sunshine and lollipops 24/7, but they’re pretty damn good. Though I love it at home, I’m returning to the ranks of the working. A couple of working moms I’ve talked to said they felt the same way with their second maternity leave. And maybe we love it so much because we know it’s temporary, so we’re milking the stay-at-home experience for all that it’s worth.

I’m not sure, I can analyze it later. Right now, I’m still enjoying the ride.

7 responses to “Reveling In My Land Of Nod

  1. I’m glad you’re happy!

  2. Your writing made me smile, again. 🙂 Its such a wonderful joy, to relish in what you have each day, isn’t it?! 🙂 I happen to like hearing about happy people. And I love reading what you write! Keep it up!
    Miss you, Tanya

  3. Thanks for the reminder of the good things about staying at home. I work a couple hours from home and even that makes me miss the freedom of just having nothing but “home” responsibilities.
    I just had my 2nd kid and wish I’d had this my first time around with my oldest. It’s call the Moms’ Guide to Caring for Little Teeth ( and has practical info on caring for your kids teeth from the newborn stage all the way to the teen years. Hope its useful to you as well.
    Enjoy the rest of your time off work! 🙂

  4. Thank you for your kind words on my SITS feature day. 🙂

  5. I think it is great that you are enjoying being at home, AND that you have the opportunity to do that. I stayed home for about a year with Baby Girl and it was great. With Bud I didn’t have that advantage and I missed it.

  6. Aww, I love this! I love to hear the happy mom tales! Of course some days are better than others. It’s so nice you can take an extended maternity leave!
    Nice to “meet” you!

  7. Hi, I can completely understand where you’re coming from! I just went back to work after 11 months maternity leave which I really enjoyed. Even though I enjoyed the time with my baby I was ready to go back to work – with 3 kids now, work is a kind of escape for me and allows me to have some adult interaction and to be known as me other than “their mum”. But I must say, I enjoyed this last period of maternity leave more than the other 2 – I think I am a bit more confident and much less stressed now, which certainly helps!

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