Falling For A Hallmark-Free Valentine’s Day

I’ve never been gaga over Valentine’s Day. Not because I’m bitter and spent many alone, but because it feels like a Hallmark holiday. And many of the staple gifts aren’t appealing. I’m not a big chocolate fan. (Yes, I know, gasp, clutch your pearls, fall over in shock _ I’m used to that reaction.)

I love going out to dinner, but when you hit up a restaurant on V-Day, it blows. The wait is forever, the kitchen has a hard time keeping up with the increased demand and it’s just more crowded and noisy than a normal night. (I sound like an old grump.) If I’m going to get wined and dined, I prefer a non-holiday.

This year I had the bright idea of not buying each other anything. We’ve got enough stuff, in fact I’ve been purging our stuff over the past six months, so I’m in no rush to get more stuff. I asked Hubby to simply write me a letter.

We are busy. Everyone is. And we don’t hit pause to say how much we mean to each other. It’s just the usual “I love you, “Thanks,” “You’re the best,” etc. Not so romantic, right?

When I first brought up the letter-writing idea, Hubby wasn’t too enthused and said “As if I already don’t have enough to do.” But he liked the price point: Free. After dinner, and while Logan was orbiting the livingroom from a sugar high, Hubby and I opened our letters.

Mine to him was handwritten since he thinks that handwritten letters are a lost treasure. I poured my heart out and it was really cathartic. His letter to me was spectacular, a page and a half typed and outlined all the reasons why he thought I was so great.

He said when I first asked him to write a letter, he wasn’t too thrilled, but was glad he did it because it was nice to take a step back and really look at our relationship. Turns out we both feel lucky to have one another.

After 13 years of being together, that night we fell a little bit more in love with each other. And Hallmark had nothing to do with it.

8 responses to “Falling For A Hallmark-Free Valentine’s Day

  1. I love this! I don’t like flowers or chocolate or “stuff.” Well, maybe clothes now and then, but besides that… and I don’t like store-bought cards. I make my own, and they suck, but whatever. I love the letter idea. A good one, for sure. There’s much to love about both of you, and it’s important to come up for air in the midst of this toddler-infant-rearing life.

    • Yet again wise words from an old friend. And I mean old as in we’ve known each other for a long time, not that you’re old. If you’re old, then I’m old, which we all not ain’t true… I’m rambling. I think it’s the senility that comes with this age.

  2. I like this idea. I love getting handwritten letters.

  3. Awww 🙂 I LOVE this! I really wish my hubby would write me a letter, but it will never happen. I absolutely love chocolate. But I want it all the time! I don’t care much for cards or flowers (or the ridiculous price tags on them…especially on Valentine’s day!). We’ve never really celebrated Valentine’s Day or given gifts or anything. I completely agree with you about dinner. We’re going out this Sunday, but not because of Valentine’s Day, we haven’t been out since last year (unless you count our “vacation” and you know how that went!).

    • What if I were to beg and plead with CoolDaddy, then would he write you a letter? We could start a campaign, everyone could write into your blog telling him how lucky he is to have you and to take out just 10 minutes to scrawl out something for you. :0)

  4. That’s a great idea and it is awesome he went along with it.

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