Team Pink? Team Blue? Not Us, We’re Team Green

I can tell you that the baby in my belly weighs about 4 pounds, has an average heart rate of 139 and gets the hiccups every night around 11 o’clock. But I can’t tell you if Bean is a boy or a girl. We’ve decided not to find out the gender and it’s been interesting to watch people’s reactions to us being not on Team Pink or Team Blue, but proud members of Team Green.

I’m such a planner and like to have my Is dotted and Ts crossed, so it surprises many that this Type A doesn’t want to know the gender. It’s because my love of control is outweighed only by my love of surprises. I know, I know. I’m an oxymoron, deal with it. But I do love happy surprises, and I can’t think of a bigger surprise than the gender of your baby. (Well, other than the surprising fact that you’re having a baby, but that’s another story.)

We already know so much. We’ve been in the Information Age for years, I’m in an industry founded on informing the masses, we frequent blogs, Facebook, Twitter, and the usual social-networking suspects, we’re all about knowing more, more, more, more. So why not have the gender as a surprise? After Bean is born, everyone will know, but for these months, a little mystery is fun. And as far as planning, there’s plenty of cute hues of greens and yellows and other gender-neutral colors to get us through.

When people find out that we don’t know Bean’s gender, their reactions vary. Most think it’s fun, though many say they couldn’t stand not knowing. A few of friends have tried to bribe me to find out and at least one pool was started to collect money on whether I was having a boy or a girl.

Then they start trotting out the old wives tales, which are always entertaining. If you’re carrying high it’s a boy, carrying low, it’s a girl. Bad acne? Girl. Great skin? Boy.

Some couples have shared their stories about how they were split, and somehow managed to have one parent know the gender and keep it secret from the other parent. That’d never fly in our house. There have also been one or two interestingly negative reactions, where it genuinely frustrates people, but I have to dismiss them, it’s our child, our choice, the world will know soon enough.

Though for a friend of mine, her hand was forced. She wanted so passionately to be on Team Green and at an early second trimester ultrasound, she told the technician they wanted to be surprised at the birth. After the ultrasound, the tech said: “Well, it’s a little early to tell, but if you want my opinion, I think it’s a boy.” … My friend was livid. The stenographer was right though, she had a boy.

The same woman is pregnant now and tried again for Team Green and again, told that to the tech. This time at the end of the ultrasound, the tech held the thingymabob on the spot on her belly so that it showed her baby, in 4D, spread eagle. The tech kept the “viewfinder” there and stared at my friend. It apparently was quite the awkward moment, but it’s unmistakable what she’s having.

At least she’s not freaking out over it, which is good, we, like all moms, really just want a healthy baby, and the rest whether your pink, blue or green is simply having a little fun.

4 responses to “Team Pink? Team Blue? Not Us, We’re Team Green

  1. I couldn’t do it. I HAVE to know. I’m not even pregnant again and I already want to know what my next child will be. I think it would be kinda fun to wait to find out…but mostly it would just drive me crazy. Maybe if I already had one of each…then I’d feel prepared for anything. Enjoy your surprise and know that I’m just dying to find out what you’re having!

  2. Team Green all the way baby!!! Love love love the surprise and wouldn’t do it any other way… We get some strange responses when people find out that we are not finding out boy/girl.. most prevalent response- “You guys are such hippies.” Well, I don’t know if we are hippies, but if being a “hippy” means we get to enjoy one of life’s last few true surprises, so be it! We’ll be finding out boy/girl when this little one make shis or her arrival any day now… and I am very excited 🙂 Excited for you too!

  3. So much fun! I found out with my first, didn’t with my second and did with my third. I loved not knowing!

    They both have their pros but like you, I find the mystery fun. I’ve always been right, though, about what I thought I was having. Not that it’s all that unlikely, I mean, it’s 50/50, right?

    With my son (my 3rd) when I had my u/s, the technician thought the baby was vertex so started her work at the lower segment of my belly. Actually, my son was, at that time, frank breech so she basically stuck the wand right into his little nads. She quickly moved it, blushed and asked me if I wanted to know the baby’s sex. But well, yeah. I started laughing and was like, “I saw!”. She was so apologetic but it wasn’t like it was her fault. It was really, really obvious.

    Congratulations on your newest babe! Getting close now, you must be excited!

    Grrr…all these new Mommas running around are making my ovaries twitch….


  4. We never wanted to know either and people do act like your crazy. But I love the surprise.
    Came over from SITS to say hi.

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